Kids: The Casualties of Marriage Problems

A wise man once said, “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” It could also be added that the most important thing a mother can do for her children is to love their father.

A loving marriage provides a solid foundation for your family. It is not the child who has been taught about love who knows how to love, it is the child who has experienced love who knows how to love. Unfortunately many times when marriages struggle children get caught in the cross fire.

The best way to prepare your children to enjoy a loving and fulfilling marriage, is to create for yourselves a happy and fulfilling relationship. The example that you set will have far greater effect that the words you speak.

All the time and effort that you put into helping your children be successful, by making sure they get a good education, they have opportunities to participate in sports and cultural activities, helping them to discover and develop their talents; will not mean much if you have set them up to struggle in their personal lives. How do you set them up to struggle? By struggling yourselves.

At the end of the day it is not the stuff we have accumulated or even the adventures we have participated in that bring us fulfillment. It is loving relationship that bring us fulfillment. Create for yourselves the kind of relationship you would want your children to enjoy. Become the couple that they would love to emulate.

Susan Derry, B.Ed., M.S.Psy., R.P.C.
Professional Counselor & Life Coach

Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course

Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples

Offers a free Nurturing Marriage Ezine

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