Archive for June 2012

Read Madame Jeanne Guyon, One of the Great Women of Church History, About Finding Peace of Mind

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Preview A Guide to True Peace Revisited in Kindle and gift size paperback at Amazon.com

There is a way of living and moving and having our being that is happy
and care free, and through which we can find the love to solve our
problems and prevent new ones.

We need love to deal kindly and wisely with our family and acquaintances.
We need love to be patient with our own errors. We need understanding to
respond wisely to others and to gain insight into the nature of
our own mental and emotional issues.

Few have written as beautifully and convincingly about the inner way
to the blessed life as Madame Jeanne Guyon, Francois Fenelon
and Michael Molinos.

It is from their timeless writings that this book is gleaned.
Newly edited with a special introduction by Roland Trujillo,
this jewel will become one of your favorite companions as you discover
in each of these three mystical writers a kindred spirit.


Roland Trujillo is the author of 14 books, including A Guide to True Peace Revisited (a compilation of the writings of Madame Guyon, Francois Fenelon, and Miguel Molinos). He is a leading authority on Christian mindfulness meditation and a scholar in the field of Catholic mysticism and contemplative prayer.

Give Up Controlling Behavior

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Give Up Controlling Behavior

Controlling behavior can be easy to recognize in others. Bossiness is the most blatant form of control; the tactical passive aggressive manoeuvres can be more difficult to spot. It is more difficult to own up to our controlling behavior and admit that we at times have a secret agenda for our words and behavior.

Georgianna Donadio in Changing Behavior said, “Often we think we are behaving collaborative, acting respectfully, or that we do not have an agenda going into an interaction when indeed we are working towards an outcome that serves our needs or desires. . . being aware of our intentions is the single most important responsibility we each have towards another person.”

Self awareness is key. We need to be honest with ourselves. Are we really listening to and being open with our partner. Or are we hiding our true objective and trying to manipulate circumstances and people to get what we want.


Whenever you strongly feel that you must change your partner's thoughts, feelings or behavior, STOP. Ask yourself, Why is it so important to me that my partner do, feel or think the same way I do? If the answer is, Because I am right. You may want to rethink. Chances are your partner also sees him/herself as right. Even if you manage to convince your partner that you are right, remember winning battles at your partner's expense does not make for a healthy relationship.

Having the intention to accept your partner and to share your thoughts and feelings on an issue, is vastly different from having the intention to persuade, manipulate or coerce your partner into seeing or doing things your way. The first is relationship building and the second is destructive and hurtful.   

Susan Derry, B.Ed., M.S.Psy., R.P.C., C.P.C.
Professional Counselor & Life Coach
Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course
Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples
Offers a free Nurturing Marriage Ezine

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